How To Talk and Listen to Your Children: A Practical Workbook for Busy Parents.
Most parents will agree that raising children is the hardest job in the world.
When you have a baby, you spend those first two years struggling with sleep deprivation, crying, diapering, and numerous other responsibilities.
Handling a newborn is tough. But as any parent knows, what comes after the age of 3 makes everything before look like a walk in a park.
It seems like your child learned how to talk overnight, and suddenly, you discover a whole new aspect of your parent-child relationship: communication.
Many don’t even realize how crucial that moment is. Not only does your child now understand what you’re saying to them, but they also use words to express themselves.
It sounds simple enough, but communicating with children is actually more complex than you may realize.
In every interaction, we are driven by our emotions. When you’re an adult, you are able to control those emotions to a certain extent.
For instance, when you talk to someone you don’t like, you’ll try not to show it directly. You’ll suppress and control the dislike you’re feeling, because you know that’s the right thing to do.
Many parents make the mistake in thinking that their children have the same ability, that somehow they choose to have tantrums or screaming episodes at the grocery store, just to spite you.
In reality, your child is behaving this way because they don't know how to express the same emotion in a calm, controlled way.
It’s up to you as a parent to teach your children how to communicate their feelings and thoughts in a way that doesn’t provoke your anger or resentment.
If you ignore this task, you’re putting the future of the relationship with your child at stake--how you communicate with your children during these early stages of development can have consequences that reach long into their adulthood.
It’s not about disciplining your children--it’s about talking and listening in the right way.